和Liana Chaouli一起穿衣
“我想把治疗的世界与形象和服装的世界结合在一起,因为无论你走到哪里,你都在那里。你不能把自己的一部分抛之脑后。——Liana Chaouli
不为人知的创新故事
“我想把治疗的世界与形象和服装的世界结合在一起,因为无论你走到哪里,你都在那里。你不能把自己的一部分抛之脑后。——Liana Chaouli
在今天的节目中,你会学到:
我们采访了Liana Chaouli,创始人和总裁国际影像治疗师公司她是全球公认的思想领袖、风格专家、导师和教育家。她还是畅销书的作者你是一个杰作:如何打扮一个更强大和更真实的你。”Liana坐下来和我们谈谈她的职业生涯,通过赋予衣橱权力,提供了一个服装的转变。利亚娜分享了她对创新叙事的看法,以及它与我们穿着的相关性,以及我们如何在自我形象中表达自己。
查看她的免费视频系列,“发现你的基本公式”在脸书上关注莉安娜@LianaChaouli而且@ImageTherapy,以及Instagram,@lianachaouli.
Liana Chaouli是总统和Image治疗师国际公司的创始人,也是全球公认的思想领袖、风格专家、导师和教育家。Chaouli女士通过赋予衣橱权力来实现转变。她花了20多年的时间为首席执行官、名人和政治人物提供自我形象方面的咨询。她也是畅销书《你是一个杰作:如何穿出一个更强大和真实的你》的作者。利亚娜向领导者们发出挑战,要求他们展现出最好的一面,表现出脆弱、真实和大胆——这些都是高级领导者和整个人类的特征。
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凯蒂·泰勒(00:00:04)欢迎来到创新的不为人知的故事,在这里,我们将不为人知的内容所推动的洞察力、影响力和创新的不为人知的故事进行放大。乐动体育足球我是主持人,凯蒂·特劳斯·泰勒。我们今天的嘉宾是Liana Chaouli。她是总统和Image治疗师国际公司的创始人,也是全球公认的思想领袖风格专家、导师和教育家。Chaouli女士通过赋予衣橱权力来实现转变。今天我迫不及待地想和你们更多地谈谈创新,讲故事,如何表达,我们穿什么,在我们的自我形象中。非常感谢你能来,莉安娜。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:00:45)谢谢你,凯蒂。谢谢你为这个创新的想法留出空间,这是在40年前或35年前当我第一次告诉人们这件事的时候,他们会问我,你做什么,你想做什么?我说,是的,我想把治疗的世界和形象和服装的世界融合在一起,因为无论你走到哪里,你都在那里。你不能,你不能,把自己的一部分抛在脑后。我是说,人们尝试过,但那叫精神分裂症。所以我决定,我有一个关键的时刻,我看到那些了不起的、有影响力的女性在谈话中没有把自己的全部都展现出来,就像有一部分总是被隐藏起来,因为她们在这方面并不精通。通常那是我们活在我们身体里的杰作。我想,太奇怪了。你有三个博士学位,你养育了孩子,你会说很多种语言。但说到这个身体,这个我们赖以生存的杰作,就没有什么神秘可言了。所以我开始了一段旅程在你的杰作领域创造精通。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:02:09)我喜欢这个故事的措辞方式,我们今天的谈话也有一个惊喜,我想确保我们把她也包括在电话里。但空军Aflex公司的首席信息官j·j·斯诺(J.J. Snow)也和我们一起谈论这种结合方式,我们可以更创新地思考我们的衣橱,以及它对我们自我形象的影响。利亚娜,跟我说说我有多喜欢你说你的身体是一件独一无二的杰作。我想我们很多人都不会这么想。我知道,尤其是对女性来说,我们有各种各样的关于冒名顶替综合症和现象的问题。我们刚刚在Untold Content和我们的一个客户做了一个关于冒名顶替者综合症的大规模首次元分析。乐动体育足球它确实对女性和少数族裔产生了更强烈的影响,让她们觉得自己不是那种不配坐在谈判桌上的人。那么,服装是如何在其中发挥作用的呢?
藤本植物Chaouli(00:03:14)是啊,这是一场多么美妙的对话啊。很好的对话,凯蒂。所以我知道,就像在我的身体里,知道,理解和经历。衣橱的力量。我从小就住在那里。我以不同的方式生活过,为什么你和我在这里谈论这个,为什么国际形象治疗师会成立,为什么形象疗法的过程是如何诞生的,实际上是我的母亲。所以我的母亲是我行医多年后这种情况发生的原因。我把这叫做练习,因为这是每天的例行公事。它就像你的皮肤。然后是你的第二层皮肤,也就是你的衣服。 So our clothing is closer to us than our breastfeeding to children. Our clothing is closer to us than our lover. Our clothing is constantly on our skin, speaking through our skin to our brain and our heart and our soul. And wherever we show up that little conversation about how that clothing is fitting, how it feels, how it makes us feel, what we give it permission to show us up as all of that comes into the room when you show up. And I’ve known that since I was a child and I didn’t realize that that was like the driving factor until my mom one day I was speaking to like two thousand image consultants. I was doing a keynote in Washington, D.C., and she lived in New York. And my mother and I have had a very tumultuous relationship, very difficult relationship until I was about forty five. And so she comes into this room and she says, I want to hear you speak. I’ve never seen you speak on a big stage. She comes in, she gets the keynote. I don’t realize that she’s in the breakout session, which has about one hundred and twenty women in it. And I just say please ask your questions at the end. And she starts speaking and I hear her voice and everything inside me just collapses. And I think, oh my God, what is this? My mom, what is she going to say? And she says, I don’t have a question, but I have a comment. I want to tell you a story. And I’m at the front of the room losing my breath. And she says, inches, as I wanted to tell you, that when I was a young woman, I was very sick in bed all the time. And my two and a half year old daughter would go into my closet, rip on the clothes until the hanger broke, bring everything laid out on top of the bed that I was sleeping in with the covers over my face because I was so sick. And the shoes and the scarves and the hat and the purses. And then she’d come and she’d gently lift the covers and she’d whisper in my ear, Mommy, Mommy, please get dressed. Because when you get dressed, then you will feel beautiful. And then you and I can go out and we can have fun together. Mommy, Mommy, please get dressed. And in tears. She continues and says, I could not follow my daughter’s invitation, but you can because the same little girl that dressed me is the same woman that has taught you everything that she knows. And I know how wonderful she is because I was her first client.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:06:46)哦,我的天哪。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:06:48)所以我母亲是原因每次我看到一个女人在痛苦中,在这个美丽的杰作的不适中,因为我们生活在它中,因为她太大了,太胖了,太重了,太瘦了,太高了,太黑了,太黑了,太吵了,太软了,太安静了,太大了,太大了,不管它是什么,不管我们生活在这个宏伟的杰作中,有多少关于耻辱的对话。每次我听到,我都能感觉到。我看到了。我想跳进去,我想把这些漂亮女人脸上的被子掀开。我想说,请穿上这些漂亮的衣服,因为当你穿上时,我们可以一起出去玩。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:07:43)是的。哦,我的天哪。莉安娜,非常感谢你的分享。当你站在舞台上面对一屋子人的时候你有什么反应?
藤本植物Chaouli(00:07:59)这个房间应该能容纳40个人。我会要求组织者做一个更大的突破,给我一个更大的突破,因为在主题演讲结束后,会有更多的人去那里,比你去散会的人还多。一间40人的屋子里站着120个人,我们都在一起哭。是的。我请我妈妈上台。对我们俩来说,这其实是一个关键的治愈时刻,因为我是老大。我非常抗拒。我直言不讳。我来自一个波斯犹太家庭,那里的女孩不会大声说话。我16岁就结婚了。 I had my daughter at 18. And I got divorced at twenty one, and so I was always the one, you know, the thorn in people’s sides, especially in my community. And when I created Image Therapists International, it was for the sake of women speaking their truth and living in this body that we get to have without you twisting yourself into a pretzel or or not being good enough because you’re taller or shorter or browner or louder or you know. Why do we as women have to twist ourselves into some pretzel so we both fit fashion. So this process of image therapy that I created this year, the antenna, you be who you are and the clothing needs to be for who you are. It needs to fit your essence. It needs to be fit, your coloring. You’re never going to twist yourself into a pretzel to fit what fashion is saying. And so when I became a fashion designer, it was on the basis of who is in front of me. So I only did custom clothes. And in that process I realized, you know, there’s this mother that comes in with these two twins and she says you have to dress them. But the same because they’re 18 and they have to find husbands. Persian woman, of course. And I said, no, I’m sorry, ma’am. I’m not going to do that. These are two different people. No, they look the same. They get the same dress. They have to find husbands. And asking these two young women about who they are and one of them said, I want this dress and I had to be cut down to here and I want my boobs to show and I want everyone to see me. And I’m going to find myself a husband. And I’m like, OK. I turned to her sister, who looks exactly the same, has exactly the same imprint and looks alike. And this is what I said. So how do you want to be? I don’t want to go to this party. You know what? I don’t even like the way I do. I don’t want to dress. I don’t want to go to this wedding. I’m never going to get married to a boy. So here’s two girls looking exactly the same. And when they opened their mouths, everything changed when you looked at their body language, they were like from two different universes. So I realized, oh, my God, there’s a formula that every human being has. So I created something called your essential formula, give your coloring of your body structure and then you have the sound of your voice. So you’re looking at me right now, Katie, or you saw a picture. Can you imagine what it was like? I’d be very different.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:11:44)一点也不。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:11:45)人们不会想到这一点。他们不认为自己进入了一个房间。你那令人惊叹的杰作的立体感显现出来了。这并不意味着你必须是一个外向的人。这并不意味着你必须成为别人,而是你自己,因为其他人都已经有主了。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:12:01)是的。让我惊讶的是,在我所有的职业经验中,我都30多岁了,这从来没有被谈论过。这让人感觉很深刻,但在这方面真的没有太多的透明度或指导。有一个视频,TED演讲,我想是我在读研究生的时候看的。无论如何,对于我来说,我的旅行,我只有很少的钱。我觉得和很多年长的男性学者格格不入,我需要第一次在会议上发言,让别人听到我的声音,如果你愿意的话,我需要在会议上有一席之地。很神奇的是,这个TED演讲我会试着把它和节目笔记联系起来。你可能见过。这是关于在你走上舞台或进入面试之前,你应该如何进行身体对话。是的,这是关于权力的。 Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I started… I still do that but, but I do feel like it’s a little, it never struck me as having the same level of depth that you’re describing with image therapy. It’s a little superficial, like it’s, it’s sort of like our posture and we pose to reflect power, which is important. But it didn’t go to this level of thinking of inner transformation.
藤本植物Chaouli(00:13:26)我是艾米·卡迪。我很清楚你在说什么。这样的对话是有空间的。是的,它是有效的。所有这些都是有效的,我的工作或我的谈话,我对任何听我演讲的人的邀请不是关于“这是不行的”或“这是不够的”或“这是关于你从这里开始的”。我们从室内开始。这是两年前我去约旦的时候,我受到了约旦一位公主的邀请。我们为图像疗法的治疗艺术创造了一个更深层次的层次。我们是努尔公主和我,我们谈论了很多。她说,来吧,来吧,来吧。 Let’s talk about this. So so I’m in Jordan. And she had been so unbelievably gracious and we. She’s very much a proponent of women’s rights and girls rights and children having their voice, and she said, well, how do you present this in a way that people actually understand it? And because you haven’t seen this work and when we went around, we had like five, six, seven, eight speaking engagements. And I was presenting this to the bank to bank it to all their managing directors. And half of the women were covered with hijabs, gorgeous, gorgeous women. And what was so interesting about this, I saw, you know, it doesn’t matter whether I’m presenting this in Paris to fashion models or designers or whether I’m presenting it in the Middle East. We all have the same conversation that’s going on inside. At the bottom of the bottom of the bottom, there’s a little tiny conversation of will I ever be good enough, no matter how beautiful you are, no matter how powerful you are, no matter how much you learn, no matter how many degrees we have.这就是我所支持的,放弃那桶底的东西,因为它是无效的。这不是一个有效的对话,缺乏的对话,缺乏的对话。就像一只黑狼,如果我们喂它,它就会活下来。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:15:48)所以你发现,当你和不同的女性群体一起工作时,内心的声音有一种全球性或普遍性。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:15:57)是的,有。我们可以回到我们的历史,我们可以找到我们签订合同的时刻。所以,当一个有创造力的孩子走出母亲的卧室,把母亲的丁字裤或胸罩戴在头上时,这就足够了。正确的。然后她出来了,非常兴奋。听着,我明白。我现在就开始做。正确的。她很兴奋,她想这么做。她想这么做,我很兴奋。 Mom and I have a new heart. OK, so she goes out and all the mother has to do is just one single half breath of a disapproving gaze. She’s there to say anything, and we all know that gays, we all know it because we know it in our bodies, we’ve all experienced it as children from our parents, from whoever. And that child in that moment makes a contract. And the contract can be anything from not good enough. I can’t be creative. The child there’s another difference between a bra or G-string or a hat. The child is just using something to get itself excited. And the creativity of children is boundless. And sadly enough, then we shut that door and we shut another door and then we grow up and we shut another door and somebody says, you’re fat. And we shut that door and we shut. So we are in this cocoon. Debbie talks about it and her beautiful book, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, she says where these castles and then somebody walks in and doesn’t like the living room and somebody else walks in into our castle and doesn’t like the dining room. And then we shut off all these rooms inside of ourselves until we live in the little tiny hallway on the floor between the kitchen and the bathroom. And that’s where we get to live, because that’s the only place that no one criticized.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:17:59)正确的。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:18:01)但是,看,事情是这样的,这是我们所拥有的代理当我们认识到并承认我们是谁,当我们认识到这部杰作,就假装没有人在那里一分钟当那里没有人。没有人能来攻击你,除非我们在自己的大脑里很好地虐待自己。我们的床上不需要坏男友因为我脑子里就有个坏女友。我给了那个声音代理权。我会说,你知道,你的大脑不是一个好邻居。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:18:41)是的,说得好。嗯,我们有。然后它就变成了现实,没有证据证明它。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:18:52)比如,当我进行培训或与客户合作时,我会乐动体育266说,嗯,证据在哪里?你胖,你丑,你什么都是。他们说,好吧,就在镜子里。我说,真的吗?
藤本植物Chaouli(00:19:08)给我看。因为我没有看到,你知道,我有一个美丽的女演员,一个著名的女演员,不能说她的名字,她站在我的工作室。我们在做一个更高的层次。我穿上了衣服。我去给你倒杯水。我马上回来。三分钟后我回来了,裙子上满是泪水。她的脸是湿的。我说,你为什么哭?有一次她对着镜子对我说,她对我说,不可能镜子里那个美丽的女人就是站在这里的我。 I am not that beautiful.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:19:47)哇。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:19:48)这就是某人。谁总是得到全世界的赞扬?但真正发生在体内的是来自外界的营养。但如果我不能让它进来,那么我的杰作就会收缩并枯萎,就像一株没有浇水的植物。所以自我形象疗法的工作就是看到我内在的蓝图和外在的蓝图,也就是斗篷,衣服,衣柜,当这两者和谐相处时,这恰好是我的第二层皮肤。我可以舒适地出现在这个世界上,因为舒适表现在我的声音中,表现在我的脸上,表现在我与宇宙和世界联系的每一种方式上。大多数情况下,它出现在困境和崩溃的时候,我选择站在我的美丽中,我站在我是谁的荣耀中。这就是自由和赋权存在的地方,我热爱它,它不会从外界得到滋养。它在这里进食,对吧?
凯蒂·泰勒(00:21:13)是的,是的。我们能和您分享一下您的想法吗,尤其是在专业和职业设置方面?你知道,我认为这适用于所有社交场合。我是一个修辞学家。所以我总是在想类似的事情。但从语言的角度看,它是如何变化的,取决于你在和谁说话,在什么环境下,在什么社区,不断演变。是的,我认为我们的第二层皮肤,如你所说,我们的服装选择,是一样的。正确的。它们会根据我们所处的情况,所处的环境不断变化。在某种程度上,很明显,衣橱有社会经济方面的因素一些限制会让人产生内心的声音说我不属于这里可能是因为买不起某些衣服或者不适合某些环境因为我认为,我们总是,在语言方面。 And so here’s where it comes in. As I get a rhetorical thing for me, we enter a discourse community and we listen for how people talk and we try to meet them where they’re at and connect, because at the end of the day, we all want to be a tribe. Right. And so we’re listening and we’re trying to match their language and mirror. Mirror. Yeah, exactly. And wardrobe situations I feel are so so maybe even more than language have that same kind of community interaction. So anyway, I’d love to hear your thoughts on that. It comes to navigating who we are, what kind of professional lives we want right. For ourselves and the ways that wardrobe can block or open.
藤本植物Chaouli(00:23:09)是的。所以我们需要做一个五部分的系列。正确的。我和你丈夫谈过这个,因为我说JJ和我,我们有一些想法,我们想做一个五集的系列节目。这就是为什么这一点如此重要。所以我把我的口号之一是,我通过赋予语言力量来提供转变。选择和衣橱。语言的本体论,作为语言学家,你说你是修辞学家。雄辩家。好的,我可以称它们为,它们相似的。 So I say this to you from a woman who dreams in five languages. I speak six or seven, I dream and five. Wow. So when I say something to you in English, it doesn’t feel the same as if I would say in Dutch I can put it and put it in me. And so if I were to speak to you in German, inside of me said something very different would be happening, or Farsi, Narvo or. Yeah, right. So it’s very different now. The same. The same. So let’s just take that context and say, OK, well, what if you’re going to France or Germany or Italy or Persia? So the context of clothing choices, let’s start there. People don’t have clothing choices. People have reactions. Most people do not choose their clothing. They think they do. But really, they’ll tell me more. I have 40 years of proof of that, so most people do not use their clothing as a frame. They use it as armor because the conversation of like is so powerful. Look, the reason why I am not in the fashion industry is because the fashion industry and I don’t want to say this about everybody, but I do know a lot about it. And they make you bleed on your own lack and then try to sell you pieces from a place if you’re not good enough. I don’t do that. I pick you up where you’re at and I want to empower you so that I don’t care where you buy your t-shirts at Target or at Neiman Marcus. You need to know what looks good on you so that when you find a piece, even especially when it’s in the secondhand store, that you can make yourself look the most magical and beautiful and comfortable and amazing because the tools you are choosing are the tools that your masterpiece needs. So I don’t believe in any of this. Oh, because you’re this you have to have these clothes in order to make yourself feel better. That’s not how my brain works. Look, I used to make five thousand dollar evening gowns. So it’s not a question of how expensive is the piece, I know that our society lives by, that our society lives by labels, our society lives by the messaging of the labels. What if you had tools in your sanctuary, in your closet? But most people don’t have closets. They have museums, they have trash cans, they have storage units. They don’t have their second skin and live in a sanctuary.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:26:40)哦,多告诉我一些,你有什么推荐的吗?
藤本植物Chaouli(00:26:44)不过你说得对,这将是一个五集的系列。我告诉你。我之前和Stephen聊过,我说我们有一个五集系列的想法,我们真的很想给你。杰杰和我谈过穿制服的时候会发生什么。好吧,是的。现在你可以有军装了。你可以有一套空军制服。你可以当法官,穿制服。你可以有各种各样的制服。还有一些人,他们在这个世界上的表情变得非常渺小,他们只穿这个、这个、这个和这个。 And I grew up in a city called Homburg that had uniforms. Every woman had to have a pleated skirt and they had to have their Burlington’s socks and that they had the little thingies and the uniform. That means you’re this. So self-expression and understanding your masterpiece is a path to a Ph.D. in design of who you are.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:27:46)我喜欢这个。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:27:47)这在我们小时候是没有教过的,什么都没有,对吧?
凯蒂·泰勒(00:27:52)是的,一点也不。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:27:53)第一。首先我们被告知要交谈。然后我们开始聊天。然后他们让我们闭嘴。然后他们告诉我们,哦,发挥创造力,做乐高,做这个。然后你就有创意了。然后你就这么做。然后你从你妈妈的卧室里出来,头上套着内衣,然后他们让你停止创造。就像推,推,推,拉。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:28:10)是的,当然。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:28:12)然后我们长大了,我们开始写诗,这意味着我们用语言创造我们的生活用文字就像在黑板上写字用我们的右手和左手。我们有一块湿海绵,我们要把它都洗掉。所以你是可能的创造力,而可能的可能性就在我们的衣橱里。你的衣橱里有什么?如果你真的观察并诚实地面对自己,那就是你的思想和内心在发生什么。人们有不同的尺寸。他们打开衣橱,他们的衣服在跟他们说话。被你难倒了。你从不需要我。我身上一直有500块。 And why are you wearing me? Guilt, guilt, guilt and cortisol, adrenaline, cortisol. And then you wonder why women are carrying belly fat and you wonder why women don’t feel sensual and you wonder what it’s like. It’s a five part series. What can I tell you? What should walking into your closet in the morning feel like in an ideal?
凯蒂·泰勒(00:29:19)你知道吗,当你在努力追求一个健康的自我形象时,我可以告诉你,你衣柜里的每一件衣服都有母亲、兄弟、姐妹和鞋子来搭配你对一切的爱。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:29:36)你知道为什么吗?因为每一件衣服穿在你身上首先要惊艳。正确的。一旦它穿在你身上看起来很美,你衣柜里或身上的每一件衣服,因为它穿在你身上看起来很美,它就会有妈妈、兄弟、姐妹、表兄弟、鞋子、耳环和项链来搭配,因为它都是你绽放的表现。对男人来说也是一样的。但人们买的衣服比他们提前半小时入场,然后在别人入场后一小时离开,而且喝得烂醉如泥。人们唯一记得的就是你记得那件红衣服。我的天啊。那是毕加索的画吗?那是什么? But they don’t remember the person. So people don’t buy clothing to frame them. People buy clothing. Most people, before they get this work into their bodies, they don’t even know that they’re doing it. They buy clothing to hide the boobs, to hide. But I do think that either it’s not good enough. Oh, my God, I wish I was skinnier or fatter. Shorter. You know, it’s always about a Band-Aid. So when you ask what would a beautiful wardrobe look like, it’s an expression of who you are. It’s an effortless, easy, magical way to show up who you are in all your amazing this. Most people don’t have that. Most people don’t have a sanctuary. Most people have this expression. They go into their closet and they’re frustrated. They open the closet. They’re even more frustrated. Then they have to go to a party. They don’t know what to wear. They have maybe two things that are their fallbacks, but they wear 20 percent of their closet, 80 percent of the time. They go in there trying to get ready for a party. They’re naked. Their bed has a huge pile of clothes on it. Their bed is dressed and the closet is empty and they still don’t know what to wear.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:31:37)正确的。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:31:38)是啊,那是一个装满衣服的衣橱,没有可以穿的。所以,正是这些作品让我进入了一个地方,你知道,通过这个你可以真正学到这个。盖吉斯现在经历的并不困难。能把我当成导师,最大的乐趣就是看到我的客户飞速成长。我不想让任何人依赖我。我要给你一个任务。我想给你们一个原则。我想给你们上课,然后我想让你们走出去再回来,学习更多的东西,把你学到的东西付诸实践,看看你周围的人是怎么做的,看看你喜欢什么。你怎么了?你减了20磅吗?因为你可以这样做。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:32:25)是的。我认为,特别是在大流行时期,我们的穿着发生了巨大的变化。你有什么想法和感受?你现在和你的客户有什么对话?我们应该每天都穿得整整齐齐吗?
藤本植物Chaouli(00:32:43)你对此有何看法?所以当你不穿裤子,只穿腰部以上的衣服时,你的语言中95%都是肢体语言。它会在你的声音中表现出来,也会在镜头中表现出来,你会隐瞒真相,或者隐瞒真相。它可以出现在句尾。它可能会出现在你没有真正掌握你的语言的时候。你知道,我在做一个电话会议,我向许多思想领袖和企业主谈论了这个三小时的课程。我说,看,现在,你的简历、手机或电脑上的摄像头是常春藤。这是你可以选择的常春藤你可以选择的工具把真实的自己放进别人的心里。对于我们这些在大舞台上演讲过的人,5000人,10000人,15000人,我们不再是在房间的后面了。我们坐在别人的腿上。 Like we’re on five million people have us as speakers, as mentors on their laps, and we are in their bedroom, in their bed with them right up close. Yes, up close and so personal where they’re sitting on the toilet. I mean, for one. But no, it’s true. But this is what’s happening.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:34:17)对的,正确的。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:34:18)所以这是被鼓励的更迫切的是迫切需要你的真实性和你自己对自己的舒适度在你自己,你和上帝之间当你在你是谁的权威中,当你可以通过这个媒介表达你的代理。人们会知道你说的是实话。另一边的人,不是你所说的内容,而是你所传达的内容,包含在真实的你是谁这个气泡中。你能让别人知道吗?你能看到他们。从能够看到自己开始,我说这是我给我的学生和客户的练习,我说追求你姐姐的伟大而不是她的愧疚,追求另一个人的伟大而不是他们的愧疚,因为今天的世界不是为了追求伟大而建立的。今天的世界对此负有责任。要责怪这个人。你早上看到的第一个妹妹,你看到的第一个人就是镜子里的你自己。所以去寻找你的伟大,把你的伟大带到这场对话中来。 And that’s essentially that’s essentially what I do.
凯蒂·泰勒(00:35:44)我喜欢它。莉安娜,非常感谢你的分享。从这段对话中我们可以深入了解很多东西。我们没机会多聊制服的事。我们没有谈到肯定和那些例行公事和习惯以及我们可以改变它们的方法来改变我们照镜子的方式。但我想我们会做这五部分的系列制服。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:36:10)关于制服,我就说一句话。制服并不能体现你的多样性。正义。这是正确的。所以,当你穿着制服时,有不同的方式来展现真实的一面。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:36:24)这是一个很好的观点,是的,我着迷于制服允许某些行为和禁止其他行为的方式,这不仅仅是字面上的制服。这也是我们展示自己的方式,即使我们正在设计自己的衣橱。我认为,当谈到社会压力以及我们如何专业地应对它时,还有很多东西可以讨论。是啊,我们聊了很多,但刚刚好,你知道的,所有这些。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:36:56)但这是一个大话题,我们赋予穿着意义,制服是在意义的领域。这就是你的语言领域。所以世界上所有被创造的东西都是在语言的领域里被创造出来的。当你做声明的时候。当我发表声明时,我就是对我的生命发表声明的权威。好的,制服就属于这一类,所以我说这是我在这个世界上的宣言,因为我献身于空军,献身于神职人员,献身于。所以制服向世界传达了很多信息,而且制服背后还有一个人。所以这是一个很大的话题。这并不是说我们不能说,哦,好吧,让我们只触及表面。这是一个深奥的话题。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:37:50)是的。是的,我同意。我知道。真希望我们今天有更多时间谈谈。你能告诉我们你已经分享了这么多关于如何重新定义我们看待衣服的方式的建议吗?但是你能不能和我们分享一些我们可以从明天早上开始做的事情?
藤本植物Chaouli(00:38:12)你现在就可以开始。所以我正在写一个关于不穿黑色的TED演讲,因为黑色是没有颜色的。每一个听到这个的人,你们都有自己的个人障碍你们的个人障碍可以通过深入观察自己的眼睛通过眼睛的颜色来实现。看看你头发的颜色,你眼睛的颜色,你静脉的颜色。看看你皮肤里所包含的颜色。这里有一种颜色。如果你的眼睛是蓝色或巧克力棕色,那就是海军蓝;如果你的眼睛是棕色或头发是棕色,那就是灰玫瑰。是酒红色的。它是紫色的。一种你可以穿到最暗的颜色就是你的个人黑色。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:38:57)我喜欢它。
藤本植物Chaouli(00:38:58)把黑色放在一边,沉默的黑色,把你个人的黑色放在另一边,这是最强大的体验。站在镜子前对着光,照一下你的脸,看看有什么不同。因为“沉默的黑色”会让你看起来疲惫、憔悴、毫无生气,而你的“个人黑色”会让你熠熠生辉。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:39:21)哇。非常感谢你的分享。我很想听听人们对此的反应和他们的实验。所以当你在听的时候,试试这个,看看你是否能找到你的个人黑色。我等不及要听你关于这个话题的TED演讲了。多么美妙。莉安娜,我很感激你今天抽出时间来和我们谈话。听众在哪里可以关注你和你的工作,了解更多关于形象疗法的知识,这样他们就会得到一个漂亮的小礼物系列,讲述你的基本公式,这对每个人都是非常有帮助的。所以你要成为offer。com。用你的名字注册。这是一个美丽的小系列,告诉你所有的基本公式包括什么。 And you can learn, you learn a lot.
藤本植物Chaouli(00:40:22)如果你感兴趣,就在Instagram和Facebook上联系我吧,去”betheoffer“外面有那么多的知识。我喜欢先付出。所以我认为每个人都应该有这样的体验如果他们想的话。还有很多东西等着你去看。在Instagram上关注我Liana Chaouli或者在Facebook上关注我。我很想和你交流。每个人都是自己的世界,所以我认识了你。它甚至更好。
凯蒂·泰勒(00:40:54)是的。谢谢你!非常感谢。我迫不及待地想继续这个话题,我们会让每个人都知道我们在深入研究这些话题时的最新进展,希望在未来。谢谢,祝您度过一个愉快的夜晚。谢谢你的邀请。谢谢你!感谢收听本周的节目。一定要在社交媒体上关注我们,加入我们的对话。你可以找到我们的无穷无尽的内容。乐动体育足球